Forgiving those who have caused us pain and hurt is one of lifes most difficult tasks. Forgiveness is vital in our progress of healing our emotions and spirit. When we are unable to forgive, our spirit and our mind remain in prison, chained and shackled. Learning how to "Let Go" is the first big step towards forgiveness here are a few other suggestions that may prove helpful to you.
1. Forgiving does not mean that you give permission for the behavior to be repeated.
2. Recognize who is being hurt by your non-forgiveness. The other person goes on with their life while your spirit disolves within your anger. Are you punishing the person who caused you pain by not forgiving them? No, the pain is all yours.
3. Do not ask the person why they hurt you. Knowing "Why" does not lessen your pain.
4. Make a list of what you need to forgive. What was actually done that caused your pain? Not what you felt, but, what was done
5. Acknowledge your part. Did you hide the fact that you were hurt? Were you honest about your hurt or did you back away. Did you stay in the situation when you could or should have left? If so, then you, too, have some responsibility.
6. Make a list of what you gained from the relationship.
7. Write a letter to the person, there's no need to mail it. Just acknowledge what you gained from the relationship, and express forgiveness for the hurts.
8. Create a ceremony in which you get rid of your lists and the letter this symbolizes the end of the link between you the hurt and anger.
9. Visualize the person you are forgiving being blessed by your forgiveness as a result, he too is freed from continuing the behavior that hurt you.
10. Now that you have freed yourself from the pain of hurt and anger you can embrace your spirit as you freelly carry on with your life. Leaving the burden of bitterness behind. never look back in anger.
I hope this message is helpful to you. Wishing You A LifeTime of Peace & Happiness